Boyfriend won't give me his password to his laptop or let me use it?

Question

Hi all, I wanted your opinion, So not really a question just your opinion on the situation,

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6months, We're both 19. And recently when I went over to his house I picked up his laptop and asked if I could use it, And he said yes, But only on the guest account. I wondered why he wouldn't let me on the main account but I didn't think it over, He has made me my own account on his laptop so I don't use his.

I asked him if I could have the password to his laptop and asked why I can never go on his laptop,but he said no I can't have it he has private stuff on there, And I should trust him, and he is entitled to his privacy He aslo said that I have no right to go on his laptop account.

Now I'm starting to think maybe he has something to hide?

What do you guys think?

Answer 1

That's tough, because yes, it's his laptop and he does have a right to privacy. But on the other hand, it sounds like there's something on his laptop that he doesn't want you to see, something he's hiding from you - secrets being kept from you. That is a huge red flag. Trust and communication is the basis of any relationship and if you can't trust him then eventially it will all fall apart. If he's THAT defensive about it then it could be something serious. You will always be wondering and guessing and eventually it could turn into accusation, then resentment. What is it? Porn? Sharing nude pics with other girls? Cheating? You gotta confront him. If he won't open up to you, it ain't worth it.

Answer 2

He is his own person and has his own rights to privacy. If you're in a good healthy relationship then you need to respect that. I wouldn't want my significant other knowing everything about my life especially since a laptop is a very personal space. Maybe he doesn't trust your computer skills or is worried he has something on there that interferes with what you deem as okay. Leave him alone about his laptop and if it bothers you that much then ask him about it NICELY. If it really bugs you then break up or something.

Answer 3

Wow! That is tough to answer. I am a girl 17 years old. I don't have a boyfriend. But if I did I think I would honest enough to let him see what's on my laptop. I have this strange idea that he may porn sites and videos hidden.

Sorry, but that is just my thinking. Anyway good luck.

Answer 4

He has a sense of privacy and a healthy sense of security. He's actually smart to have you use a guest account. That decreases the chances you will download malware etc. You've been together for only 6 months, that doesn't give you any rights to look through his private info. You aren't married, nor are you joined at the hip.



It's up to you if you trust him or not.

Answer 5

Everything is becoming digitised nowadays. My Laptop is my life! I have all my movies, tv shows, games, books and music stored on there! I'd never put anyone in a position to be able to delete all that! I have a lot of serious stuff too, like vital college work and grant forms and stuff. Plus he could have a lot of personal stuff on there, not just porn, but stuff like his diary or old family movies/photos. Yeah, I'd rather leave someone alone in my room unsupervised than give them full access to my Laptop.

Answer 6

There is a reason why passwords exist on the computer. It's for privacy. It doesn't mean he's cheating on you necessarily. I wouldn't want my girlfriend on my user account either. One of the main reasons is because of my extensive porn history, and she will think I'm not satisfied by her alone or something...but it doesn't matter if I got her to boink me every time I wanted it...I would still have it.



You might delete something, you might find something which might embarrass him. There are hundreds of reasons why it's completely fine for him to have his own account.



Don't even take it personally, and don't jump to conclusions by being suspicious unwarranted.

Answer 7

Here is the truth and truth hurts, most people don't want to hear it.

Number 1, you say he is your "boyfriend"? Does that mean that you are having sex? If you are having sex, then it should be a serious relationship with trust and honesty. I am older, but not that old. I am 49. These days it seems like there is no REAL love out there, only LUST. Seems like people just don;t care anymore about honesty and LOVE. Sex is so casual and in reality it should be a special thing between two people.

Answer 8

In my opinion, passwords should not be shared with anyone except if you are married. Relationships come and go and people do financial business online among other things. If he says no, then respect that. I would not even give my parents my passwords. There's just too much can go wrong.

Answer 9

Passwords can be guessed or setup a cam on the keyboard. If that doesn't work give him an ultimatum and as a last resort restart the comp and enter the bios, mess it up and password him out. Sounds like he into something shady or gay. Dump him!

Answer 10

Other than that, is there anything else he does that makes him seem suspicious? Also, does he ever ask to use your account he made for you? One thing I would do, if you havn't done it already is change the password. If he ever asks to go on your account, tell him no, you have private stuff on there.

really, 6 monthes isn't that long. for now, just use your account he made for you and let him use his.

Answer 11

Look at it this way, say for example you two have an argument, you're pissed off and you have his password, you would be able to email people, post on his facebook (if he has auto login active) etc.



Trust is a two way street sweetheart. You two are still getting to know each other.

Answer 12

He has every right NOT to give you his password, for his account. He is in fact letting you use his laptop, but not use his account. Some people have confidential information, or something else in their account, and nobody else should see it.



Just say thank you, for letting me use your computer. The computer belongs to him, and the computer is not yours. If you want a laptop, then you go to a store, or shopping mall, and you buy yourself a computer.



Maybe he might be concerned that you see something your not suppose to see, or you delete something your not suppose to delete.



Sometimes accidents happen, and maybe you destroy his computer, or you say something to someone else that's confidential, and you tell people whatever you saw was on his laptop. Frankly, I think you should not get angry, for not being able to use his account.



In my opinion, I think you should buy your own computer if you want one.

Answer 13

You shouldn't be looking around in your boyfriend's computer, he's right not to give you the password.

Answer 14

Well you are not married and six months is a short period of time. He might have financial or investment data on his laptop and if so I would not give you the password. Somehow you expect the level of communication and trust that only come after years of marriage in a relationship of six months. I bet he is cautious and that is great.

Answer 15

his privacy.if your really worried about what hes doing just talk about it with him and maybe ask nice if you could really quick just look through his stuff if you really need to know whats going on.hes a man he has privacy right.



he made you a guest account be happy with the guest account :)

I don't like people touching my books or electronics either,nobody knows any of my passwords.

its not because I have something to hide...well kind of.i have a weird camera roll of funny and just weird screenshots.i also delete my history if I am forced to let someone on my lap top.i don't search bad stuff or porn or whatever its just weird questions haha.

Answer 16

I absolutely agree with your boyfriend on this matter. His computer has some private things on it, and you should respect that. If you don't trust him, then move on and find someone who doesn't care. And I would feel exactly the same way if the roles were reversed! You are entitled to your privacy as well!

Answer 17

Im a guy, and if a guy doesn't give you his password he probably has something you dont want to see on there ether. For example _orn

Answer 18

I have been w my husband for 6 years. We have separate passwords. It's called trust. What he has private is none of your business. How would u feel if he wanted to snoop on you?

Answer 19

I would let him use my laptop but then again you won't see anything interesting. I think it's normal and you shouldn't worry about it.

Answer 20

It's called privacy

Answer 21

Try not to other think it, my boyfriend did the same and i know hiding it and not telling you makes it worse... if it really bugs you then talk to him and explain how you feel, thats what i did, i said "please can you just tell me whats on your computer as it looks like your hiding things and if you want to be with me then we should be open about stuff'. Turns out it was a whole library of porn and he had its all in different files as he used to sell it and look at some of it. it really bothered me so he deleted it. guys have porn and pictures it normal.

Answer 22

Personal computers are just that - personal. If you don't have a computer, go to the library or use one at a local shop. If you want access to his computer to snoop, shame on you. Keep pushing and you'll be looking for a new boyfriend soon.

Answer 23

If there's a security, there's something being kept.

Answer 24

I agree with your boyfriend. A password should never be given out to anyone. We all have private things on our computer and you two are not even married. It was nice of him to allow you to use it under your own account, which means you can customize your account how you want, without changing his settings but, if you want to use a computer at his place, you ought to take your own computer over there.

Answer 25

I know of a way that you can bypass his password. I can share with you a website that has the software. You put the software on a CD and stick it in the laptop. He would never know. Now, do you really want to go there?

Answer 26

You're kind of a *****. I wouldn't even let you borrow my laptop, and he was nice enough to make you an account. Why do you want full control over his life? Let him masturbate. God..

Answer 27

You have no ******* right to even ask him for his personal passwords or ANY thing else that is his. You actullay make me wanna puke with your stupid question. You got NO RIGHT to anything of his unless he gives you permission to pry into his personal life. All you ****** ***** are the same wanting ti delve into and control every aspect of a mans life. I I were him I would have already sent you down the road

Answer 28

He does have a right to privacy & it is his personal laptop. However, if he's getting as defensive about it as you say, that is suspicious.

Answer 29

Well you've only been dating 6 months. If you were married and he was acting like that...red flag. He probably just has alot of porn on his account.

Answer 30

his computer his rules, be glad he gave you a guest account. its also safer for the computer since it decreases the amount of malware and damage you can possibly do. i have my own computer account and sure the gf can use the computer under her own account. i dont just give out my password to someone ive known for only 6 months and anything i need from my account i can get it remotely. if your really that suspicious about him keeping it private then you need to talk to him and tell him what you feel. everyone is entitled to privacy even being married

Answer 31

He's right you do not have any right to his personal business. Instead of worrying about him maybe you should look inward and find out why you want to know.

Answer 32

it is his property .not of yours therefore he has his rights. Also you have to think what is your position in his place. you are a guest. he will not let close you with him. he need to keep is privacy from you,



but you can break his password by using hiran boot cd and find what are keeping away from you. But after that it will end this friend ship.

Answer 33

Its Porno and you will get mad and not understand. Porno is wrong but with a guy its par for the course. Let the guy be, he isn't all up in YO beezwax. Guys are different from girls, we don't share, we list.

Answer 34

If he doesnt want you in there he is hiding something. Does he allow to see/use his phone?



Yes, he should be allowed privacy about certain, but then again he should have nothing to hide. Without knowing specifics of your relationship its impossible to tell how close you are. When i am in a relationship for 6 months, I wouldnt want to hide anything from my GF. but thats just me

Answer 35

Yes trust is a thing of course in a relationship but privacy is something in general society. At the end of the day it is his laptop & his right to preserve what privacy he so chooses.

Answer 36

Get your own device and put your own password on it so that he cant use it. See how he likes it. If he respects it then good, and if he complains just tell him you are entitled to do it the same as he does.

Answer 37

he's entitled to his privacy. if this is a really big issue and you're worried about him hiding something really big then try talking to him about it.

Answer 38

hi

Answer 39

No, that s his business and you shouldn t have to worry about it. If he was doing something that you don t a approve of you d have found it by now. You should be able to trust him without going through his personal information/life.

Answer 40

Agreed with Fred. You have nothing to do with him! A man should have his porn collection on his computer without someone to constantly want to delete it

Answer 41

You should trust Your boyfriend! In other way there is no reason for relationsheep

Answer 42

Of course he is entitled to do that. And you have absolutely no right to demand it. If I was him I would have dumped you by now to find a better partner.

Answer 43

*cough* c:/users/Boyfriend's account do some searching it you have too. but you should trust him.

Answer 44

Hes a drug lord, only reasonable explanation

Answer 45

You don't want to see all his porn dont you ? :v :p

Answer 46

I agree with your boyfriend

Answer 47

perharps it has some "special' videos... or i don't know?!

Answer 48

Secret photos of him and his other girl ?

Answer 49

Sounds kind of fishy.... But on the other hand, why dont u trust him?

Answer 50

He probably has ALOT of porn pics on there

Answer 51

It is not legal so better avoid it.

Answer 52

Hr is watching porn

Answer 53

I thin he is not good.So he dont belive you.

Answer 54

use bootkon i thinki that is the name of it BOOM GOES THE DINIMTE! btw it by passes passowrds ;)

Answer 55

He probably has some sick **** on there, dump his ***.

Answer 56

Leave it.

Answer 57

wake him up by drinking his dick

Answer 58

maybe that is true

Answer 59

Porn